For true love, however, there are no words or language that conveys what the heart feels. So, it is true that I cannot capture the nuance of Varda’s post and appreciate you responding in English, so indeed honor actually falls to me. It is always necessary to see things from a different point of view, sometimes language mediates but other times, you have to relay upon your heart.

However, where we might differ is notion of the festivity that must be celebrated. I remember once when I was separated from my girlfriend at the time because I was in a different country that celebrated the equivalent of Valentine’s Day on March 8th (International Women’s Day) – my heart was so filled with love and desire – I gave 3 flowers to 3 random girls** – with the expectation of nothing in return. Why? Because, this festivity gave you the freedom to celebrate.

All too often, we are constrained by modern life, as I said in the previous post to constrain ourselves into boxes. As I said there has to be a pause or as we both agree the need to spoil each other. Taking the rather strict definition of holiday as “Holy Day”, as it is rendered into English is but one part. One has to engage in the notion of festival when there is a notion of celebration of love. And, if that only happens once a year – yes, that is sad and agreed sometimes it is more frequent we think of breaking our significant other’s neck (although not me personally) just wish that they either know when to: “shut up” or “leave things along”.

However, it is days like Valentine’s Day, Birthdays, Christmas/Hanukkah, Diwali that form the sand within the mortar that hold the blocks of the relationship together. It is not the cement but part of the binding agent. So, indeed, it is the job of the boyfriend/girlfriend to pause on this day to make it meaningful – so that all other days may indeed be Valentine’s Day, as per Varda’s original point. It the time to spoil each other as a festival. The chocolate, flowers, tinsel, hearts must serve as signs not signposts to the heart.

For the heart knows what the heart knows. The mind keeps the heart in check. And, balancing those two are the soul. When you are in a relationship, your souls co-mingle to become one and that is what we are celebrating – love itself. So, even people who are alone should join in the revery of love without bounds and/or borders.

**True, it took 12 attempts, as most girls were too shy to accept flowers from a stranger.

So, I do agree, every day must be Valentine’s Day, with the one you love. But, taking that pause is hard, as is finding the words to be meaningful. Some, like poets or hapless romantics, might find the words easy. But, for most of us, they come slowly. Thus, let a day even though it is filled with tinsel and artificiality be the day to conjure those deep passionate spirits that modern life seeks to destroy by creating that space to pause.

So, it is with the little things that one does every day. Sometimes, they are seen but not acknowledged. Sometimes, acknowledged but not seen. So, in defense of those who live a busy life – let Valentine’s Day stand and be the day that everyone can be the poet or the romantic.

And finally, I’m also taking the advantage to write a thing or two in english despite it is not necesary at all, if it were, this guy Boris, wouldn’t be able to understand a single word Varda wrote in the article.
So, it is an honor to have a foreigner reading our website and sharing his point of view.

That’s all! See ya!

Where I do disagree is that we have these days as a pause in our otherwise crazy lives to stop and pause about love.

For if you do Valentine’s Day right, it is not that the world stops, but the love regrows and renews itself because of all the ornamentation refreshes the visuals and reminds of romance. So, yes, treat everyday as Valentine’s Day with those you love and those who love you in turn. But, do stop/pause on this day to make the extra effort – why because love is worth it.

I would also say, that we couple or pair, not only from instinct but out of the need for love. It is true that many people can find substitutes for love. However, ultimately, there is no other substitutes. All other things fade away. That said, love must be fed for it is like a fire – it provides warmth but also ultimately might consume us. Love probably never dies just becomes ash.

It is possible that fire can be started by another but for that to happen one love must die and there in lies the paradox.